One of the most important things I am able to offer women is a safe place for them to explore. Safety is an issue for both sexes, but women have to deal with it on a daily basis in a way that men rarely do. Add an intimate act like spanking to the equation and this concern is magnified tenfold. Women are often reluctant to seek out spanking or other BDSM(bondage and discipline sadism and masochism domination and submission experiences because of safety concerns and who can blame them? I feel that everyone, especially women, need to have a space where they can meet their needs and feel safe, understood and cared for. I offer a place to experience spanking or other fantasies without having to deal with the unwanted advances or agendas, without the pressure of being sexualized or manipulated into a type of relationship that you don’t want and without having to deal with the creepiness that often comes with this territory. I remain clothed at all times
I would like to share with you some tips for meeting a new partner who is not going to hurt you or attempt sex and playing safely.
BDSM IS NOT ABUSIVE; IT IS SAFE, SANE AND CONSENSUAL
**Please note that some rules may not be applicable to spanking**
BDSM is increasingly becoming accepted as a safe and psychologically beneficial activity when it occurs between two consenting partners. Unfortunately, there are many who, under the guise of BDSM, are actually predators looking for victims. Research (Jozifkova, E., 2013) has identified specific markers to define good BDSM partnership versus abusive relationships.
Good BDSM relationships are sane, safe and consensual and are beneficial to both partners. A good BDSM relationship is not based on fear of a partner and does not lead to feelings of guilt or worthlessness, is one in which partners respect each other and does not contain psychological pressure. Look for the following indications (Jozifkova, E., 2013) that the person with whom you are playing is safe:
An abusive relationship is not BDSM and should the following markers be identified, you could be endangering yourself by playing with the individual.
Jozifkova, E. (2013). Consensual Sadomastic Sex (BDSM): The Roots, the Risks and the Distinctions Between BDSM and Violence. Current Psychiatry Reports 15:392. DOI: 10.1007/s11920-013-0392-1
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