Useful BDSM Information

Below you will find some useful links to BDSM information.

Bondage can be great for stress and mental health

Aftercare Information

Consensual Sadomasochism May Actually Lead To Altered States Of Consciousness

Things you don't want to hear your Mistress say when you are naked and tied up.

Pain and Adrenaline

Things you don't want to hear your Mistress say when you are naked and tied up.

"Um, I *think* I have another key around here somewhere..."
· "Oops."
· "Um. You didn't *really* need that, did you?"
· "Which end of this thing am I supposed to put in there?"
· "Don't worry. I'm sure there's a locksmith somewhere that's open at 2AM..."
· "I promised not to do any permanent damage - but you know, hair grows back."
· "Oops. I *thought* that was the lube."
· "Uh oh. If that's the KY tube, what did I just put up your....."
· "Did I mention we're on camera and this is going on my interactive website?"
· "Safe word? Um, what's a safe word?"
· "And this is my German shepherd, Ralph. I know you'll just love Ralph."
· "Oh fuck. You *can* untie yourself from up there, right?"
· "Oh shit. You do know CPR, don't you?"
· "Heh heh heh. You didn't tell anybody else you were coming here, did you?"
· "I do too know what I'm doing. I've read five whole Gore novels!"
· "Now, where DID I put that extra attachment for the chainsaw?"
· "Uh oh. If this is the tube of Superglue, where's the KY?"
· "Did I ever mention that little fantasy I have about the tennis balls?"
· "Lie very, very still and keep your body temperature low. It turns me on."
· "Oh, um, hello, Officer."
· "My real name? It's Bates. By the way, I'd like you to meet Mother."
· "No, really. Trust me. I saw this work in a movie once."
· "You *said* you could service my pussy.....c'mere, Fluffy."
· "You like my straitjacket? Cool; I'm glad they let me keep it."
· "Phn'glui mgwlnath Cthulu R'lyeh."
· "I did mention I was a devout worshipper of Huitzilopochtli, didn't I?"
· "I did mention I was a devout worshipper of Kali-Ma, didn't I?"
· "Oh mighty Azathoth, accept this sacrifice I offer to You...."
· "I'm sorry. Are the voices in my head bothering you?"
· "Groovy. This crop leaves collared trails in the air when I swing it."
· "Well golly gee! This is more fun than pullin' the wings off-butterflies!"
· "Dang it, this is more fun than settin' cats on fire!"
· "You don't need a safe word; I'm psychic. My spirit guides tell me what to do."
· "You don't need a safe word; it's groovy. I'll just watch your mood ring."
· "Oh, um, hi Mom. We were just, um, uh....."
· "I'm not crazy. Yes I am. Shut up, all of you."
· "Um, I forgot - which one of us was supposed to be the dom?"
· "Heh heh. Look, Beavis, a tied up naked chick. Now what do we do?"
· "I'm not really a mad scientist. I just want to see what happens."
· "I promised no permanent marks, but I bet I can sew that back on."
· "You don't need a safe word; I'm a True Master. I've read ALL the Gore books!"
· "You don't need safe words; I'm a True Mistress. I have WEEKS of experience."
· "I don't use safe words; I'm Betazoid. I look human so they won't get me. Shh."
· "Uh oh. I think it's stuck there."
· "I always keep the speculum in the freezer. It's more fun that way."
· "If it doesn't fit, it just needs more Crisco. Where did I put that football?"
· "Don't worry if your hands go numb. You won't be needing those."
· "Did I mention my crucifixion fetish? Now, where did I put those nails..."
· "No one understands me. That's why I killed her."
· "Bye. I'm taking off for the weekend. Isn't suspension bondage fun?"
· "Oops. It escaped. I think I see it slithering off in the corner."
· "Darn it, where DID my pet tarantula get to?"
· "Did I mention I'm a narcoleptic?"
· "You know, the Marquis de Sade was a pansy."

Pain tolerance

Having a low pain tolerance doesn't mean you can't play. A properly administered spanking will cause the body to physiologically accept & enjoy a spanking.

Mind set-
You don't "enjoy" pain, or "look forward" to pain?  The way to counter this is to not mentally judge or put labels on the pain. Do not go into a memory or project anything into the future. You have to get into exactly what you are feeling now, in the moment. Slow down your breathing and just experience the energy of whatever you’re feeling. Don’t label the feeling, don’t judge it as good or bad, become just an observer. Go into it with your mind and try to locate exactly where the sensation originates and where it ends, what shape it is, if it moves or is static. Play with it a little bit.

One of the main problems that people experience when they feel pain is that they complain about it. They complain to others, and they complain internally to themselves. “Oh man this hurts, I can’t believe this.” The issue with this is that we create this vicious cycle of emotion where we get more and more upset – to sustain this – t he mind amplifies the pain experience. This amplification restricts your ability to get pleasure from it.

To get a bit more advanced, once you become aware of what you are feeling, without labeling or judging recognize that whatever you are feeling is an energy inside your body. From physics and spirituality we know that everything is energy. Just allow yourself to appreciate the energy, appreciate, accept, and even love that this energy exists again without label or judgment. Then, give yourself some love and approval simply for appreciating the energy. This will bring you into a very peaceful and present state of mind.

Increase pain tolerance

  1. rest
  2. physical strength & conditioning
  3. positive thoughts
  4. positive emotions
  5. minimizing stress

So, be well rested before a session, & think positively about it.

Breathe-remember to breathe!! Without it, you die. Seriously, breathe slowly & deeply.

Relax. Once you are breathing deeply, muscle relaxation may come naturally. Let your entire body go limp. Let the muscles of your face slacken. No matter how much it hurts, resist the urge to flail about or clench your fists. Just try to let go of all feeling in your body and remain focused only on breathing. Relax your buttocks & don't tense up. Tensing up can result in muscle bruising which can be painful for many days.

Understand that pain is a mechanism that is meant to protect us from damaging our bodies and to keep us away from dangerous situations. When it really comes down to it, it's not the body part that hurts, it's your brain convincing you that it hurts. It's the brain's way of warning you not to repeat the action that caused you the pain in the first place.

Pain can be a good thing, as so many BDSM folks already know. Once the pain begins, the endorphins rush into the bloodstream

Endorphins, other chemicals and the Pudendal Nerve

The endorphin high is caused by a bunch of natural, morphine-like chemicals the body pumps into your brain to reduce your sensitivity to pain (thus raising your pain threshold.) The fact that the body seems to release these endorphins in measured 'loads' is a key to understanding how to 'play' (see last part)

The researchers say a spanking releases endorphins, the body's natural 'happy chemicals', and that leads to feelings of euphoria, a reduction of appetite, the release of sex hormones and an enhancement of the immune response, and they have a similar effect on pain as drugs such as morphine and codeine.

The endorphin 'loads' as they are available in the body are released in their entirety, and after a 'load' is released, it takes the body about ten minutes to generate the chemicals for another one.

Endorphins are released during a spanking but that is not the most important factor. The feedback loop that connects spanking and the spinal cord via the Pudendal Nerve is the main physiological reason why human beings enjoy being spanked.

The Pudendal Nerve and perineal nerves, which are also the major nerve supply of the clitoris(in females) and penis(in males), as well as the lower portions of the scrotum(in males), and the lower labia (in females) –  it connects erotic stimulation of the male or female genitals to/from the same area in the spinal cord for feedback & preprocessing before those signals are sent up to the brain. The sensations received during a spanking are handled the same way as those received during orgasms or sex.

This extra stimulation creates purely">physical response. The pudendal nerve is being stimulated, more blood is coming to the area, therefore the genitals will become engorged.  The spanking is interpreted as pleasure.  This contrast between pain and pleasure confuse the brain releasing adrenaline.  Adrenaline is released from the adrenal gland it causes as increase in heart rate, also dilating blood vessels and air passages. This allows for an increased volume of blood to be pumped around the body further engorging the sexual organs increasing sensitivity even more

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